Merry Christmas

 

May the JOY of Christmas fill your heart with happiness today
May the HOPE of Christmas light your path and guide you on your way
May the PROMISE of Christmas help to show God's boundless love for you
May the blessings of Christmas fill your heart now and forever...

I wish all my readers a Very Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

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My First Nephew

 

My First Nephew ~ Mohammed Hamza

Born on November 20th (2011) ~ 10.30am ~ 2.5 kg (approx 5 pounds) ~ 20 inches long ~ Super cute.

The wait for my first nephew was long...very long almost 26 years :) 

But the wait is over now.

Allow me a moment for expressing my unrestrained pride. I have a new little nephew, Mohammaed Hamza – nearly Four weeks old. My brother's first born child, my first nephew, the first baby in the family after 26 years. He is so amazing. His skin so smooth to touch, with a very fine hair, and yawns which is unforgettable. Every time he cries, you feel like your heart is being torn with the pain that you hear from his voice. Everybody adores him so much. Cute face, Bright-eyed, Chubby cheeks, Rosy lips & above all he has the best smile I have ever seen. I too have few nephews & niece but they are all from my sister's side, this one is the first from my brother side. I just can't express my happiness in words.

He is black-haired and jovial, like his father, He shows signs of great intelligence, like his Uncle (That's Me :P), and is quite fond of an afternoon nap, like his mother. But what most captivates me about him is "What he keeps thinking when he keep gazing on all things around him & what would he be thinking in his own world".

He is so little, But whenever I carry him I fell he is much bigger than I think. My new born and first nephew, it felt so good when I carried him for the first time at the hospital. I felt like crying but I didn’t. I finally know how it feels to be an uncle. I have to look out for him and take care of him. I try to help my sister-in-law sometimes to change his diaper and I play around with him and make him laugh or vice-verse.

I am grateful to my Brother and my sister-in-law for giving me such a wonderful gift of my life after my dad sad demise which was few months back. I am thankful to God as well for showering his love & care on our family by sending an angel in our family. I wish Dad was here with us, he would be the Happiest person in our family, having such a wonderful grand-son. Since the day he is born, I try my best to spend most of my free time with him, I feel this sense of peace, beauty, connection and magic. It doesn’t matter if he is screeching in my ear or being the happiest baby in the world. His presence will always remind me of hope. Hope of getting something after loosing something.

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G.D. - An Unforgattable Friend

Myself & Gulam

It was almost a week since I lost my Dad. I never expected such a thing to happen so sudden. It was the Sunday evening when I received the call from my friend. I was having my regular coffee with my college friends when suddenly I saw by fone vibrating which said Zia Calling. I wondered why he was calling me cause he hardly calls me up on a Sunday. Actually, he was supposed to be busy with his college friends for the upcoming freshers party which was been organized by them. I thought he would be calling up to ask me if everything was fine at my house cause last Monday I had lost my dad. Sadly, he was calling to give me another sad news which was a shock to me. He said that our common school friend "Gulam Dastagir Ansari", the only child of his parents, the only brother to his five sisters, had passed away in an accident. The accident took place at a Dam near Kohlad, some place between Mumbai-Goa Highway.

I was shaken at that point of time, didn't knew how to react. I got up from there & left the place to meet Zia to confirm the news he just gave me. While heading to his place I was hoping it to be a rumor. But when I reached his place, he confirmed the news. The accident did occur but we all didn't knew how it occurred. We both were in shock so we decided to call all our friends & spread the sad news. At first no one was ready to believe us but later we told everyone that its a fact & we all have to accept it. I called up all my friends so that we all can go and visit Gulam's family members & give them support & condolences. It was a very tough time for all of us cause we all were still in a shock & giving condolence to his family was very difficult for us.

When we came down from his house after giving condolence, we tried to find out the real reason - How & When did all this happen. People had different stories to tell but we all were waiting for the real story. The story goes somewhat like this (as told by Tausif (Gulam's College Friend). Gulam and his three other friends decided to visit one of his College friend Shehbaz's residence @ Kohlad. They all left from Gulam's place at around 11pm on Saturday night on two bikes. Four friends who planned it out were Gulam, Junaid, Shehbaz & Tausif (all college friends). They left from here & halted at some dhaba on their way to Kohlad for dinner. They reach Kohlad early morning around 4am & they went to sleep. They got up in the afternoon had their breakfast & lunch & decided to have a shower @ the nearby Dam. Shehbaz who was not well decided to stay out of water so he didn't join them. The dam water was flowing from a height & they were at the corner. The place where they decided to have a bath was flooded till knee height, so Tauseef went ahead a little to swim in d deeper area of the dam. Gulam & Junaid were heading ahead inside the place where there was knee height water but they didn't knew there was a broken wall at the side & it was very deep. Gulam was ahead just few steps from Junaid. Gulam lost his balance & went inside the hole, seeing this Junaid tried to get hold of Gulam but they say there was a swirl inside the hole & Gulam was caught inside it. Seeing this Tauseef came to save him, he tried pushing him from below but Gulam was not able to get out of the swirl & during that time Junaid also got caught inside the swirl. Shehbaz who was outside tried to get hold of them but they were already lost inside the water. Shehbaz got unconscious & he was lying at the corner.

Tauseef tried to call for help but he said no one was there to help them. In the meantime Gulam & Junaid were no where to be seen inside the water. After sometime few people came to help them but it took them 2 hours to search them. They finally found Gulam's body & then Junaid's body. This is wot Shehbaz & Tauseef told us. 

Death literally can happen in the blink of an eye.

A promising young life was over. We not only loose one friend but we lost two friends that day. I don't know much about Junaid, the other friend who passed away that day. My friend was smart, caring, humble, ready to help & always there whenever we needed him. He was always courteous and always inquired as to how I was doing & how all his friends doing in their perspective lives. He was a gift to all friends & specially to his Parents & Sisters. I know he made his parents, sisters, relatives, friends & everyone around him proud by his caring nature.

One picnic changed it all. It cost him, it cost his parents, it cost his family, it cost his friends, and it cost innumerable others as well. He lost his life, a life of innumerable promises. Thankfully, I do not think he suffered at the end. Her parents lost their only child. Her extended family lost a cousin and a niece. Her friends lost a classmate. Others of us have been affected as well by his death.

I remained saddened by this death and many promises that went with it. It is hard to reconcile such a loss. However, as time goes on, I grieve less for the deceased. Now, I grieve for my friend. I have lost him. I'm not angry with him that he didn't inform me before leaving this world but I am just sad. Not sad for myself because of the distance of a friend but sad that my friend is distant from so many things. I just keep telling myself that time will help.

It seems like we just met yesterday had hell lots of fun & he is gone for a short vacation & will be returning soon. I wish it is just a dream & he would come back and wake me up. We all friends could go for a picnic & enjoy to core. I wish...

I pray every minute for his family members. May God give them courage to over come this difficult time.

Life keep teaching us some lessons everyday. This one is full of them. You owe it to the people that love you and love your family. A senseless death creates a great deal of collateral damage. Lesson number two - love your family and your friends, you never know when they might be gone or when you might be gone. Finally, be there in whatever way you are allowed when someone suffers a loss, particularly the loss of a child. I can't say that I know how my friend's family members feels but I hope he knows, I & all his friends will always be there to support his family in all conditions.

I'm gonna miss you, my friend. I'm gonna miss the late night gatherings, the way you listened to me so patiently. You taught me so many things that I will never forget. You taught me to relax, and enjoy the moment, and that there is nothing more important than family. I am going to have so many fond memories of you. I will cherish the good memories, And I hope to learn from the bad ones. I miss you my friend, surely that you know, more then I show. May your soul rest in peace...Ameen

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My Beloved Dad

I lost my Dad on 3rd of October'11 due to prostrate cancer. I miss him so much, more and more everyday. My Dad was the best man I knew. He and I got along great, and he always listened to whatever I said. He never judged me. I so wanna be like him, and I am so proud to be his son. Dad, I miss you more than words can ever say. There is not a moment that goes by that I don't think about you. I would give anything to have you back. I cant believe I have to go through life without you.

"Dad, I really miss you. I love you. I know that we had a good relationship, and I know that you knew how I loved you. I just wish that I told you more often."

As a child we were told by our elders that there is world beyond the one we live in and that those who leave the world look at us, smilingly, from skies. Today, I want to believe that this is indeed true. I also hope that by now you are in Heaven & looking down at us with a smile. 

How cruel is life? Why is it that people whom you love so much walk away from your life in single stroke? You told me not to cry and to be brave. I want to tell you that I failed you…I cried a lot the day I lost you & I always cry when I don't find you around me when I need you. I cannot think of my life without you. Please come back dear dad!

Some people said that you left us cause God wanted you back for him but I need you more than him. There is nothing for me to celebrate…I am desperate. I will do anything to bring you back. I was being very brave all the while you were unwell. I smiled and worked while I cried from within all the time. I am crying while I am writing this to you. Have I become a weakling overnight? And everybody in the family thinks that this youngest son is the bravest one. I want to ask them to shut up for burdening me with this “tough” image. I want to howl and cry and cry. It is okay if I am weak. I am human. I want no medal for being a tough one. Please come back dear dad…

The time after you were operated, I had been sitting on your bedside, while you struggled with life. I watched as you were drugged by doctors and nurses. I know how much you hated it. I would get angry at you for having self-control and bear pain even when ill. Dad, I cried every time they gave you another injection and you would just grimace. I wanted you to shout at them and ask them to stop playing around with your body. But all you will do is bear the pain. You had grown so weak. I know how much you hated being dependent on others. I hated them for abusing your body like this. You went in pain. You went without saying goodbye to anyone of us. You never woke up from surgery. We should have never agreed for your surgery. For that might have meant few more days of your presence amongst us. Please forgive us for agreeing for this surgery. You taught us never to be greedy about anything in life. You were wrong. I want to somehow get few more days of you. I promise I will spend each and every day with you. Please come back dear dad….

Please come back dear dad…just for few more days. I feel that I did not get enough of you. Just come back to see your grand son/daughter who is waiting to arrive in this world very soon. What will I tell him/her if they ask me about you? Mom is all alone, she tries to hide her tears in front of us so that we can be strong to accept that you left us and went far away but deep down she really needs you..Please come back Dad.

It has almost been 40 days since you have left us. Your battle with cancer was hard at the end and I am so glad you do not hurt anymore. I was so glad I could care for you the day you got operated, I hope I didn't hurt you. I was sad I couldn't speak a word with you that early morning on October 3rd, 2011 when you passed away so peacefully. Please be with me dad because I know you will always live through me. I hate that you will never walk me down the aisle or see your future grandchildren, but I will continue to make you proud of me and live a brave honorable life as you always taught us to do. I LOVE YOU!!!! I miss you, Thank you for everything dad. May your soul rest in Peace....Ameen.

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Expectations

 

Expectation is not a bad thing et al... but what makes it not so desirable thing in a relationship is that there is a less possibility of it turning up true! 

- Anonymous Author

Isn't that what keep us going on? We have certain expectations from ourselves, our families, our loved ones...and we keep on multiplying them every time one of them gets fulfilled.

What's better? The satisfaction of being able to expect or the dissatisfaction every time we are let down? Don't we all have some amount of melancholy as a staple diet? Isn't there always something in life that we are not happy about...It is true that we all aim for perfection or contentment maybe..

Expectation is the perfect ground for Disappointment.

Emotions are complex...they always are...we try so hard to decipher our feelings...realize our aims...describe our relationships...are there enough words in the English dictionary to describe the myriad emotions we experience?? Or is that we settle on words because of the satisfaction that we get when it has a name...

Being possessive is good if kept as a cuddled thing in relationship not a raw material for jealousy and hate.

I hope that this post would help us talk more about this subject and people try to acknowledge the fact that having lower expectation some times is good as it always have a element of surprise to stumble upon..!!!

Lastly...Thanks for not having enough expectations from me time to time :)

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Miss You :( :( :(

Post Dedicated to Someone who was really Special to me & will always remain Special.

It is not often that you meet someone who you think would interest you. Someone who could enchant you. Someone who could hold you in rapt attention. In fact, it is extremely rare to cross paths with such a beautiful mind. 

It's a weird feeling but some songs always prick me so bad. I was listening to the acoustic version of  "Sajni" few days back and it did remind me of someone who was very close to me. The song almost made me cry inside. I can never describe the helpless feeling that I get whenever I listen to it. I don't know why but I almost felt like the song was trying to give me a sign or a message that something's not right. Maybe or maybe not I should call that person up and try to apologize but then I'm scared. Life's too short for such egoistic mindsets anyway. We all do mistakes and screw ups but does that mean we should let our fear stop us from what we really want to do?

I always say in public that how I don't care and stuff. It's true! It's all true! And it also doesn't matter if you judge me based on what I scribble out here. Truth is I miss that person real bad. I'm just trying to figure out why :(. I tried too hard to forget and even move on but that's something I can't just let go of. I really need help.

Yeah, I do have new friends and a fresh new life but again that's not enough. My life still feels incomplete. I don't wanna wait for it to be complete or anything. I just really feel that close friend could be and really deserved to be a part of my life.

Why do all good things come to an end?
Why do we wreck things that are so perfect?

Whatever is it that I did, I was wrong. I am wrong. I will always be wrong until and unless I step up and apologize and bring back that person in my life. But... it's too late.

I want to say sorry to that someone. I am really sorry. I know sorry is not enough for anything that I did to hurt you. I beg your forgiveness for my frail moment. I'm sorry for hurting you. Just know that you're the best person ever. I lost many people in my life. I regret losing you the most. It was our fortune that made us cross paths. And I can only pray to Him to mould our destiny. 

Wherever you are, Whatever you doing...I just wanna wish you Luck & May God bless you & keep showering you with his blessings. Miss You :(

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Happy Independence Day :)

"Long years ago we made a tryst with destiny, and now the time comes when we will redeem our pledge, not wholly or in full measure, but very substantially. At the stroke of the midnight hour, when the world sleeps, India will awake to life and freedom. A moment comes, which comes but rarely in history, when we step out from the old to the new, when an age ends and when the soul of a nation, long suppressed, finds utterance.... We end today a period of ill fortune, and India discovers herself again."

- Jawaharlal Nehru
(Speech on Indian Independence Day, 1947)

 Wishing all my blog readers a Very Happy India independence Day 2011.

Other might have forgotten,
But never can I,
The Flag of my country
Furls very high,
Happy Independence Day.

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Decisions !!!

 

I have been thinking quite a bit lately about giving up...I do this a lot, to be honest. I flip, I flop, Then I get back on my horse (Blogging).

Don't know if I want to get back on at this point. I really don't know what I want to do.  Why, Y do I have trouble making decisions sometimes? Minor, major, wotever decisions...

'Self-Peace' is important to help us overcome many of the challenges in our lives, including the simple, well...not so simple, process of making a decision, whether it be a minor or major decision...

I am sure there are numerous reasons for decision-making problems, but I felt this could be one of the reason to it.

Why can Decision-Making be so Hard?

I feel sometimes, making that decision means closing off other options. It may mean that other exciting goals have to be put to the side. Thus, with a decision - a way forwards is opened.....At the same time, another way is closed.

Life is a journey....step by step....each decision we make can be a small or large step within that journey. One decision can be a turning point in our lives ....Thus, what if we make the wrong decision!? Obviously, this can lead to fear and we can freeze down & then we start thinking was is the right decision or wrong decision???

So - I think that is one of the reasons why decision-making can be difficult - FEAR.

 - Fear of closing a door.
 - Fear that we may not be making the right decision.
 - Fear that we may not be able to change that decision if its the wrong one.

Our frequent companion in life - Fear. But we can't just stop taking decision if we always have this fear in our mind. Fear can be overcome - 'Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway' as they say. Who knows what's around the corner. Believe in yourself, trust your instincts, understand your fears and go forth ....! Have Courage ....Take courage, and make those decisions... :-)

Just a thot - If we can carry through on a decision made, act, and accomplish it, then perhaps, we can find the time to follow through on the other options, which were closed in that first decision process. A decision taken doesn't mean its the Final Decision, it's just a matter of finding some sort of balance.

Well, I didn't knew I wuld write such a long post about Decision making - I just planned to post a 'Picture' with 'Post Coming Soon...'. But once again, I have written more then what I had planned. One of 'off the top of my head' type post..well I guess my brain need some rest :p 

Sometimes we knowingly go and do that 1 stupid thing that we regret for the rest of our lives...But at that time when u are doing that thing u feel sooooo alive inside u....so go ahead keep taking decisions :)

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Lost

Fingers don't wanna move...pen don't wanna scribble...words don't wanna live and keypad is getting wayward......I feel I m Lost again.

I have been holding up so many things since last few months...and I think I need a good vacation too...aah but God only knows when the good day will dawn!!...

I have lost count of time, I have lost count of my age, I have lost count of my feelings, I have lost count of my needs, I have lost count of my urge to be with her, I have lost count of myself !!! In short I'm Lost....

I don't realize when sun shines, when dusk fells, when stars twinkles...life has become barren...I have no idea at all Y is it all happening...

There are moments in my life where I just wanna give up. Give up fighting to survive each day as a normal sane human being. I sit here typing out word after word when I really just want to smash up anything, everything. I want to scream, I want to hurt, physically, so maybe i'll forget about the emotional pain. I want to shout at all the people who have caused me pain, I want them to feel the pain they have inflicted.

People say, "You are working hard, but not smart!" To be honest to the statement... I’m not doing either of the said things...

What I aspire to be in life is already mauled in dust of my social needs...I have to be what I'm not just for the sake of pleasing fellow clays....I’m not liking bit of it.. Actually, to be true to myself...I never liked things when they go astray of my thoughts...

I like what I am...I like what I feel is too-ethical or non-ethical; I'm just lost...

Song for the moment:

Kabhi shaam dhale toh mere dil mein aa jaana
kabhi chand khile toh mere dil mein aa jaana
magar aana is tarah tum ke yahan se fir na jaana..!!

Somewhere down my throat I hum these verses, why? For whom? I don't know or I just pretend that I don't know? I really don't know Y???

I'm pretending! Each and every breath I take is an affectation and nothing more than that. I'm pretending to myself...How Strong I'm... I'm inflicting pain on my innocent and sensitive soul! I have no idea wot am I doing with my Life...I guess I just need a vacation...a Long Vacation to start life with a Fresh. Wot Say ???

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sHeHzU

Dreams

When I woke up today morning, the first thing I was trying to do was recollect my dream. I woke up because my alarm kept on buzzing next to my ears, which distracted me from my dreamy world. When I got off from my bed, I was actually trying to recollect what exactly I was dreaming about as if it was something which I wanted to be a part of my reality. Thus this post is all about our dreamy world & the reality world.

Do you have a dream? Perhaps you dream to be successful, Perhaps you dream to be a Rich or maybe your dream is to own six mansions in six different cities in the world. Maybe you want to lose weight. Perhaps you want a perfect body with six pack abs. Or maybe you want better health, a better job, etc etc

All of us have some desires, some dreams. We're only human. And as humans do, we talk about them to our closest friends or our family, the ones with whom we feel most comfortable. A thing that I have noticed is that very often, the first reaction of the person you share your dreams/desires with is that they will point out the reasons why it cannot be done, or why it is a bad idea. They will, in nine cases out of ten, they play the devil's advocate. Maybe they think that they are being realistic here by pointing out the pitfalls in your plans (if you have made them) or telling you why it is difficult to realize (if it is a pipe-dream).

They may be trying to protect you, out of their extreme love for you, or they may genuinely believe that it is truly not possible. We, being human, tend to give a lot of weight-age to the opinions of those immediately surrounding us. Our deep inherent (and perhaps subconscious)  need for 'approval' and 'love'  makes us tend to agree with the flaws that they point out. After all, they are only giving voice to that niggling doubt you had deep inside, but had ignored or pushed aside, being brave enough to share your dream/pipe-dream.

What then happens is that the pipe-dream remains just that. We do not act on it, as we feel it will be futile. So we push it somewhere to the back of our minds and carry on with daily business of life. We go to work, hangout with friends, go for movies, read, watch television :) :) and before you realize one day of your life had passed. 24 hours have gone--Poof! Vanished forever, never to come back. What we do not realize is that a part of our dream has vanished too, along with it. (or maybe buried deep inside, banished forever, relegated to languish in that box of 'someday maybe')

One trick that I have learn't to make your dreams come true, is never to share it with anyone who is likely to express even the slightest amount of negativity. You want to lose 10 kilos? You can! You want to start a business? You really can! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Hug your dreams to yourself but pursue them quietly.

Because I know something that they don't - Nelson Mandela's words.

"It only seems impossible till it is done."

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sHeHzU

Change is Inevitable

It's been so long I scribbled something on my blog, well nothing new happened in my life since my last post so I couldn't post anything new. But here I am with my new post - Change is Inevitable. In everyone's life, change is certain with time & in my life there have been many changes in the last few days. Just thought of writing about it through my post...Here it goes..

As time flows change is certain. Change happens, that is for sure. It seems that the stress of the new things or feelings and emotions, etc. affects most people in every age. So the trick is not to resist it, but to go with the flow of it. The real problem for few person is getting over the resistance of those who don’t want to change. People just like the same routine in things, in life and in other people's life. And if they change even a bit, it’s a big concern. I ask why???

If seasons can change, why cant persons change for better???

Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.

They always say that time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself. There is no one who can bring revolution unless and until you face the courage in you and change for better. Loss is nothing else but change, and change is nature’s delight. To exist is to change, to change is to mature, to mature is to go on creating oneself endlessly.

It is not the strongest of the species that survive, or the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.

So frnds, this is what life have taught me and I agree to it completely.

Do you believe in Change???

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sHeHzU

50th Post Celebration

50th Post Celebration

I've finally reached the big five atlast. Started as a little scribble thought of writing random stuff everyday, never imagined to reach a milestone so fast...I m super excited about it. I feel this will be an apt way to write my 50th post today. I wanna dedicated my 50th Post to my Parents.

I have always been writing about my life and how things are going on with me. For once I want to dedicate a post to my parents -- the ones who always have been providing me with unconditional love no matter what I do or how I am as a person. If they ever stumble upon this blog of mine, they'll hopefully read this post. Let alone the fact that my other posts are going to scare the hell out of them. Ofcourse, they might be surprised that they don't know a lot about me but blogger does and my readers do.

I remember the times when I used to get fed up at home during vacations. I usually never went out with my friends or went for a party or anything till the time I was in school & since I was brought up in a typical orthodox family setup. But the best part was that I was used to it and I never cribbed much about it. Infact, I enjoyed staying with my parents. Why? Because I had the best time to be with them when I was young. I used to be the nice son (i'm still d nice son :-) ) who used to stay at home most of the time and not even complaining about missing the outside world, but actually I was happy & I hardly have many friends at that point of time.

I could find topics to discuss with them.
I could watch cartoons or tv shows with them.
I used to clean up my room & help my mom to get stuff from market (I still do that :-) )
I used to play video games & cricket for hours & I was never been stopped for playing so long nor do they stop me now.
Well, I guess you understood wot I'm talking about.

I do regret those days when I used to be stuck in my room glued to my video games for long hours. There were times when my mother used to knock in and ask me to join for lunch/dinner. My dad used to return from the office and I never bothered asking him how his day was. Not that he cared or anything but still..

My mother used to be alone all day at home when I had college. My dad used to be in office. I used to dread thinking about how lonely her life is. Since we live in a flat system, she never had too many friendly neighbors to talk to. Neither could she make any calls and chat with her relatives for hours cause at that time telephone system was not so advanced & not everyone had that option. I never cared about how bored she was and inspite of all that she still woke up early in the morning just to make us a nice breakfast and send me and my dad off to a happy day. She still cares for all of us.

It hit me one morning when I was standing outside my room, watching her busy cooking food for me & she looked dead tired but she still went on doing her routine without any complain. she used to wait all day till evening for our arrival & she still does & I can make that out.

That day it choked me. I made a promise to myself to always have a talk with her daily no matter how tired I was or how much busy she was in her routine. Always made it a point to join her and watch those sleezy tv serials even when I didn't enjoy it. But it meant a lot to her. I even made it a point to give her company during dinner time so that we all can have a fight over the remote as to who'll be watching what.

Many times she sat down beside me and told me that those little moments during dinner and while watching the tv together is what she waits for the whole day. It made me cry inside. Made me realize that I were so self involved. But is this how we should treat the mothers who aren't working? Sure they'll find hobbies by themselves but we need to give them time. They are our mothers afterall. :) In the end of my busy busy day, if it wasn't for mom, I'd not be able to plan my next day. She always keeps everything ready. And I have stopped taking her for granted so I go out to help her once in a while.

It matters a lot -- not only to my mom or dad but to me too. My Dad is also very close to me & we share a very good rappo with each other..He is my Idol & thnx to him, I am what I am...Just wanna say Thnx to both of them for their Love, Care & all their sacrifices.

Just a note for everyone - Never be too busy to care for your parents.

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Luv u all.
sHeHzU

I Believe !!!

I BELIEVE..:)

LIFE is all about Love, Joy, Sorrow, Pain, Heartbreaks, Laughter...etc etc. I just love my life...though its not perfect at all but still I m happy about it. I always keep reminding myself that this is it, this is the only one life I have got and I have to make it to the fullest, which usually makes me fall in trouble...but that's life isn't it??

I believe in love, I believe in forgiveness, I believe in silence, I believe that it’s a lot easier to be nice than it is to be mean, I believe that everyone matters to someone, I believe I can make a difference, I believe in karma, I believe in letting go, I Believe...I Believe...

What's the use of it if we don't believe in our-self & do whatever we want to. I have fallen in love...confessed it..had my heart broken, seen some of my friends turning into enemies...have become close to people who were once just faces in the crowd...have loved to the fullest, seen my close friends crying and stood beside them helplessly...and worst of all have seen Love...loving someone else...but as I said that's Life n Life do have its Ups & Downs.

Each day is a lesson filled with positive and negative vibes.
Every incident have molded me into a new soul.
Sadness had made me yell - WHY ME??
Happiness have brought tears in my eyes.

I have faced the unexpected...and have missed some expected things, but yet these things never stops me and they never will...

I still chase my dreams, pray wholeheartedly, trust my friends, expect the unexpected to happen and most importantly I BELIEVE....

Keep reading, commenting, enjoying & cheering your Life.

Luv u all.
sHeHzU

Happy Mother's Day

Happy Mother's Day

It’s mother’s day coming up this weekend. One question everyone ask - What will you be doing to celebrate it? Frankly speaking I have no idea what I am gonna do or how am I going to celebrate it.

Though I have few ideas in my mind to celebrate it but I am very confused as always to what will be the best way to celebrate it.

1) Have morning breakfast with mom and dad as I haven't done since a long time.

2) Spend the afternoon helping her out in the kitchen while she cooks food.

3) Gift her something that will make her happy (giving a gift is always nice. It doesn’t have to be big or expensive or new – but it should be thoughtful and maybe interesting.)

4) Take her out for Lunch / Dinner to her favorite restaurant / hotel.

5) Give her mother's day greeting card & a Flowers Bouquet.

Mother’s Day is More than Just Another Day. Too many of us rely on Mother’s Day each year to tell our moms (grandmothers, aunts, sisters) “How Important” they are in our lives. One day, a card or two, some flowers, maybe a bottle of perfume or random gifts. And we think that takes care of that chore for the year. No its not like that...We ode our life to their sacrifices they do for us everyday & we should celebrate it to make them feel Happy.

This year for Mother’s Day (mark your calendar for May 8, if you haven’t already), make it really be a day on which you, personally, celebrate with your mom. You can just celebrate by choosing any of my above ideas or else, Do something personal. If you can visit your mom, do so. Give her a little kid’s kinda hug and kiss and say “I love you, Mommy” (and her mother’s heart will melt in the sheer joy of having her little boy or girl again for just a few minutes). Or call her on the phone and chat for a nice long time, not about the weather or Osama or random stuff, just about you and your mom.

Sit with your mom and tell her about times that you remember as a child (or talk on the phone for an hour, maybe two hours---or better yet, video chat with your mom, if you can). Don’t just presume that your mom remembers your childhood the way you remember it. When you were a kid, your mom was having all of the worries and stresses that you have now as an adult, so she might remember your 6th birthday party as “that time when we didn’t have much money” but  I remember it as “the best birthday party I ever had.” Your mom (and your dad) need to hear things like that.

Don’t be afraid to say the words “I love you, Mom” (or Ammi, Mama, Moms, Mumsie, Maa, whatever). Say the words while you look at her, your eyes to her eyes. Give her a hug and whisper it in her ear…I m sure you will make her Happy and u yourself will be Happy. So just don't waste the opportunity by hanging out with friends, watching a movie at cinema hall, going out on a date, etc etc...Its Mother's Day...be with her & just make her feel u still Care n Love her (I know u do, but make her feel u still have time for her from your busy schedule). Hope all my blog readers & everyone in this world celebrate this Mother's day with their MOM & try to make her day so special that she remember it for Lifetime. 

This post is specially dedicated to My Mom & all the lovely, caring & loving MOM in this world...just wanna say THANX to you for ur love, care & blessing. Luv U MoM.

Keep reading, commenting, enjoying & cheering your Life.

Luv u all.
sHeHzU

Love or Something like it !!!

What exactly is "LOVE"?? 

 

I have asked this question to couple of my friends many times and have failed time and again to come up with a decent answer.

Can we define Love? is it even something to be defined?? what conventions are we supposed to observe?

How do we know if we love someone?? are there signs?? symptoms??

LOVE - ITS JUST A 4 LETTER WORD, easy to write but difficult to express...but for me, the answers lie somewhere unseen; far away. I m walking towards that place and one fine day, I wish I will get there and unmask the answers.

So, what exactly is Love??? 

I m just writing down my definition of Love, it can be different for others...

To love someone is to care, so much for him/her even more than yourself. U find urself living 4 a person, living to see him/her smile. To love someone is to live 4 them...there's one old song that says, "pyar ko pyar hi rehne do.. koi naam na do..(let love be love, don't give it a name)". The point is why try to define love...let love be love.

When we love someone (guy/girl), we are ready to accept him/her the way he/she is; the imperfections included. The flaws in him/her wouldn't bother you. You will see the goodness and the truth in him/her; the best of him/her. His/her presence will make you feel happy; your face will light up everytime he/she is around. His/her mere existence in this world will make you feel blessed. Perhaps these are the signs that someone is in love, perhaps this is LOVE.

I am not an experienced soul when it comes to Love, but then, I have "believed" myself to be in love so many times that by now I am capable of making an observation or two. And I know that lucky are those who have found "the person" to love. There is always one person in the crowd who affects you in a way no one else does; someone who draws you like no other person and when you have found that person, perhaps you have found LOVE!!

(I don't know if I have found mine. Maybe I have or Maybe its just the feeling. (convention is not something I would follow!))

To sum up the post I just wanna say

Love is all about...

Never expecting anything,

Never demanding anything,

& Never being possesive...bcoz it always spoils things...as far as I know...

Sharing n caring 4 each other is what Love is truly about...

Keep reading, commenting, enjoying & cheering your Life.

Luv u all.
sHeHzU

In Pursuit of Happiness

Happiness! Something that everyone craves for...

I'm happy these days..life is going smooth...so thot of writing something about Happiness & ways to find Happiness. So what made you happy today? Morning dew, bright sunshine or an innocent smile? Happiness lies in small, precious moments that can bring a smile to your face. True happiness comes from within. How to be happy in life? Well, the secret to being happy always is in being happy with yourself. Be happy...always. It is simple but we complicate it when we mix it with our wants and expectations.

Some Simple Ways to be Happy..read it somewhere just wanted to share it out..

Love Yourself

The next time when you think and brood over the fact that 'No one really loves me' [dats wot I keep saying everytime :-) ], just pause and ask yourself, 'Do I love myself?' Most of the time the answer will be 'NO'. People who love themselves, will never ask this question. Until and unless you learn to love yourself, you can never expect others to love you. Start loving yourself first, love the way you look, the way you talk etc and only then will people start loving you. Loving yourself makes you more confident and that confidence brings you happiness. Everyday, after you get up in the morning, say to yourself, 'I love myself and I am the best', and you will see the difference within days. So the first thing that you have to learn is how to become happy with yourself.

Smile Always

A smile can take you miles. When you are sad and depressed next time, just look into the mirror and smile at yourself. It will be difficult when you are really sad but there is no harm in trying. Keep that smiling face for several minutes and soon you will realize that your spirits are lifting. No matter where you are, a smile can do wonder, it can make your day. Remember, that you look beautiful when you smile and when you look beautiful, how can you not be happy.

Do Something for Others

Nothing makes a person more happier than the joy that he/she feels after helping someone in need. Whenever you get the opportunity, go out and help a person who needs it and whom you do not know and might never meet. When you are sad, just look around you and you will see people who are suffering, who are dying of hunger and illness and when you think about it, you will realize that the reason for your depression is nothing compared to them. There are so many people out there who need your help. After they receive your help, the smile that they give you (trust me) will make you feel more happier than a million dollars placed in front of you will.

Positive Thoughts

Fill your heads with positive thoughts. Do not for once let negative thoughts enter your head as they tend to drag down your spirit. Always see the positive side of things. When you are sad, try and see the positive side of it, and you will feel much better. If you see only the negative side of people, then one can never be happy. Positive thinking helps a lot.

 

Listen to Music

This is another best way of learning how to become happy. Listen to some songs that will help you lift up your mood. Usually people, when they are depressed loves to listen to songs that are sad and that suits their mood. That drags you down further. Just do the opposite; listen to some happy songs and hum along with it, that will make you happy.

Compliment Others

Compliment at least three people everyday and mean it. It will only make them happy and feel good about themselves and if you make at least 3 people smile a day, that automatically makes you happy. This a great way to learn how to become happy instantly.

Count Your Blessings

Learn how to become happy with your life by counting your blessings. If you are feeling sad that your eyes are small, think for a minute about those people who has no eyes to even complain about, if you are sad that your friend forgot your birthday then think about those people who don't even know when they were born. Always count your blessings, and be grateful to God for what He has given you and you will see that you will feel much better.

Just follow these steps and slowly with time you will be a person filled with positive energy, and who does not like a person who is always happy and cheerful and gives out positive vibes?

Happiness is one of the most misunderstood words ever :). Though in reality it is very simple we just tend to measure it using the wrong scale ..

Keep reading, commenting, enjoying & cheering your Life.

Luv u all.
sHeHzU

Life in School

School life was real Fun....That was the real Life in every sense - meaningful, interesting n enjoyable. I've tried my best to enjoy every moment of it n regret having had to grow up. Life was easy when I was a kid, no unnecessary tensions...problems...a care-free life. Life was soooo perfect & entertaining.

I've had my fill of skool life - lots of teachers, scores of friends, unlimited entertainment. I've relished every single day I've gone to school, even the exams coz exams at that level were such a drag...3 hours n 100 marks n epics to write. How we friends used to signal each other during exams with our fingers for answer to fill in the blanks, match the column, true or false...

School...(a normal day scenario in my best friend life during school days) Every morning he woke up late, dressed up as fast as he could after the world's fastest bath, and ran like hell to reach before 7:10am. As always, he used to reach at 7:15 (despite of living nearby the school n that too coming all da way on his bicycle), it was then he realized that he was definitely not alone!! He always had company who also stayed nearby and were among the late comers. And when he could finally reach in time on any day, it was then he realized that he hadn't cut the nails (so he ate them up as fast as he can!!), he hadn't polished his shoes (so he used the back of his socks as fast as he can!!), Loose Socks!! (start looking in his pocket for the emergency rubberband!!), Tie doesn't have a proper knot (tie it!!!!!), The Green House badge is missing (beg for one around!!) and after all those efforts, he would end up caught for coming last when the door was about to close!!! I wish I was in School again....

Inside the class, you cursed the teacher for remembering the homework (of course when you didnt do that!!). And when she asked us, the best reason that still works many times...."Ma'm I did the Homework, but I forgot the copy". And as most of the time...me and my friends were punished for not bringing the copy & we were sent outside the class where we continued talking till the period gets over!!! (coz it was the same reason which we friends used to give on a regular basis to the same teacher!!!) And then cursed the teacher for slapping us in front of the class. I wish iIwas in that class again...

In the Break: We thanked God for the food we ate during recess, the game we played, the gossiping we did, back-bitting of friends, looking at gurlz n telling our friends that she is mine so don't u dare look at her :-)

The recess, play time n the assembly...I guess no one can ever forget that moment of life....

Fights were common. The one who did not obey the groups orders was excluded from the group and no one would talk to him. Those were rules. Group rules that were subject to change...any moment. Coz if your friend breaks the rule, the rule was changed. And at any moment, a friend would be called a foe...and the very next moment...he would be a friend again (lack of memory may be!). Well that was the best part of childhood...many fights...many quarrels...but still no foes..all friends!!

And when the long bell struck, "Oh my god...thank you very much for the day...." in fifteen seconds, the long prayer used to be over, and with that the end of all enmity or jealousy, ego or anger, whatever was present. By the time we walked back home, everyone was a friend again, everyone was happy again, and every shoe was dirty again...

I wish I was a Kid again...no ego...no worries...no anger..no hurries...no enemies...just a ten yr old...who never knew the complexities of life then??? of Guys n gals (boys n girls then)...of love & lust??? We respected our teachers, listened to them, did homework, played crazy games...wrote exams, brought parents to PTA meetings? (actually we didn't bring them, they were called upon)...n wore smart uniforms....We were actually scared of exams n used to study though not daily...My best memories r those of recitations n elecutions n all culturals...Annual days, Christmas celebrations, National holidays, etc etc

Life sure was simple then....Class X was exciting cause...studies, tution, tension, first boards....I thought they wud kill me...

But the innocence is lost, the cute smile is lost, eyes full of hope n joy....all lost forever. Now the eyes r clouded, the twinkle in the eyes is lost, the spring in the steps is lost, I no longer walk I run, always in a hurry, there is tension always...what to do next, where to go next n whom to call next....Jobs, Family, Responsibilities that too on our tiny shoulders which once carried a bag full of books...

I wish I was in School again....

Keep reading, commenting, enjoying & cheering your Life.

Luv u all.
sHeHzU